Support High School Students Who Call BS on Guns


Support High School Students Who Call BS on Guns

The past decade, I’ve worked with hundreds of high school students every year on the notorious college application essay.

Once these teenagers start thinking and talking about who they are and what they care about, almost all of them reveal themselves as highly moral kids with idealistic goals and passions.

Above all, they know what’s right.

So it didn’t surprise me that the friends and classmates of the 14 high school students and three teachers slaughtered in Parkland, Florida last week have jumped into action.

Their simple and urgent message: Do something!

And it didn’t take long for them to understand what needed to help prevent more of these senseless tragedies: Control guns.

Especially the ones that usually takes out large groups of people in just a matter of seconds.

(The AR-15 style rifle was used in the Parkland massacre, in addition to many others in just the last couple years: 27, mostly kindergarteners, dead in Newtown, Conn.; 58 concertgoers in nevada, NV; 26 churchgoers in Sutherland Springs,Texas; 49 club-goers in Orlando, Florida. That’s the short list.)

Based on their recent appearances on national television, these students also know the SINGLE, MOST EFFECTIVE first step to dramatically decrease the carnage: Ban assault-style weapons.

Just listen to their eloquent, heartfelt speeches.

And understand their plans to join forces with other high school students and make history.

These Parkland students almost instantly knew just what needs to happen:

  1. Speak up nonetheless it is possible to (Find a march, spread the word on Social Media, start a club, sign petitions, talk to others…)
  2. Take on the biggest defender of all guns: the National Rifle Association (NRA)
  3. Vote out the politicians who take the NRA’s blood money and wouldn’t dream of standing up to them (Just Google them!)

We’ve all heard the rantings of those who blame everything but guns to be able not to give them up:

*It’s the fault of bad parenting*Killers will find other ways to kill*Gun ownership is a Constitutional Right*It’s a mental health issue

Again, the kids get it. They don’t deny that most of these are related factors on different levels, which need to be addressed also.

Nevertheless they are smart enough to focus on the ONE step that will reduce the carnage the most: Ban assault-style weapons.

(this is simply not a radical new concept: These were banned in the United States up until 2004, when Congress let it expire. The ban included 18 types of semi-automatic rifles, including the AK-15.)

I salute the bravery of these high school students to speak out.

I am heartened by their clear sense of logic and power to see the problem and one obvious step toward a solution.

These kids have managed to pierce the fog of fake news and propaganda which includes gripped our country, and paralyzed our power to confront issues with reason and

It’s shameful that they are now being attacked by the forces out there who will go to any length to keep their guns.

If you are distraught and sickened by the constant headlines and photos of dead young people in our country, speak up.

Support these young heroes and their pleas for help and support any way you can.

Get informed. (Tune in with Twitter: #NationalSchoolWalkout #MarchForOutLives #Enough)

Speak up.



Here’s Home Elevators Upcoming Marches:

National School Walkout: March 14Protesters are calling on students to walk out of school at 10 a.m. for 17 minutes (one for every Parkland shooting victim.)

March of Our Lives: March 24Sister marches are being planned throughout the country to support the Parkland students’ march

Students: Know Your Rights

From the ACLU (American Civil Liberties Union)’Your school can punish you for missing class, just like they always can, but it can’t punish you more harshly for protesting than if you were missing class for another reason.’#KnowYourRightsIf you imagine your rights are being violated, contact your local ACLUA affiliate at

I was interested how these teenagers from Marjory Stoneman Douglas highschool had such a fierce sense of social justice and so many of them stood up within hours of the tragedy to express their outrage and concerns so eloquently.

I found it interesting to understand the school was named after, Marjory Stoneman Douglas, who was the daughter of the first publisher of The Miami Herald newspaper, a journalist herself, a women’s rights activist ‘suffragette,’ an early environmentalist who lived to be 108.

Considering the progressive legacy of their school’s namesake, I believe there must be teachers, parents and other educators at that school that have fostered a solid sense of democracy and social justice. Bravo!

In this same spirit, I believe all of us who use students have a responsibility to support these teenagers any way we can.

Lives depend on it.

I salute these students for standing up for their Constitutional rights and participating in Marches and other peaceful protests demanding gun control policies to keep them safe, especially in their schools.

As both a parent, educator and patriot, I plan to march alongside them in my community (either Orange County or Los Angeles). Hope to see you there!

It’s the time of year when highschool seniors are learning where they got accepted to colleges or universities.

Yay! Good for you! Time to celebrate!

Many are also opening those dejecting rejection letters.

If they didn’t get within their dream school, that can be a bummer.

If they didn’t get into any of their schools, it can be a time of utter panic.

So I wanted to share a timely story about a young woman who recently sought my help after experiencing the wildly unpredictable and emotionally charged quest for the right school and brutal college rejection.

(I will call her Anne, a pseudonym since she actually is in the middle of applying to transfer colleges now.)

It was a bumpy road, and she learned invaluable lessons, which might help some of you (including transfer students!).

By her junior year of highschool, Anne was one of those hardworking science/math kids who cleaned up on her grades and standardized tests.

When it came time to apply to college, she knew she wanted to be an engineer and was confident of her chances.

She applied to four top universities in mechanical engineering. Only four.

(You can see what’s coming, right?)

Come spring, she got the news. Anne did not get into any schools.

Fortunately, Anne had a strong sense of self, very realistic and focused. She told me that she was disappointed, but not devastated.

Instead of freaking out and feeling sorry for herself, she quickly analyzed where she went wrong.

In her mind, since her grades and test scores were superior, she deduced that she was either lacking in impressive extra-curriculars or her essays were lackluster.

That fall, she enrolled in her local community college, signed up for a slew of extracurricular activities including a rigorous ROTC program! and kept her eye on her goal: mechanical engineering.


I suspect you already caught Lesson One from college rejection: Always have back-up schools when applying to college. Sure, go for your dream schools if you have a reasonable shot, but add a couple you have solid chance to get into as well, along with a couple fall-back, shoe-in schools.

Did you catch Lesson Two from college rejection?

Here it really is: If you didn’t get into your targeted schools, no matter why, don’t despair. Sure, shed a few tears. That’s only natural.

Just remember that you always have options. It just might take you longer to get where you wish to go.

Now here’s Lesson Three from college rejection. It’s my favorite.

When Anne signed up for her classes at her community (2-year) college in Southern California, she thought to herself that since she blew her single-minded career track, she might as well loosen up and take the opportunity to broaden her horizons.

She decided to take some classes that she wouldn’t necessarily have had the chance if she dove directly in to a demanding mechanical engineering track.

(Isn’t she a smart cookie?)

Of course, Anne had to take her core electives, but she also remembered her curiosity about biology sparked by her highschool anatomy class. So she included a biology class, and enjoyed it, and went on to take two chemistry classes. She loved those two.

The upshot? During taking her two-year community college detour, Anne discovered that she was more interested in a field of study in bio-med than mechanical engineering.

That’s huge! It’s fantastic to have the time and luxury to figure out what you really want to do in college, before you start your junior year (when you typically declare a major) and lock into a slate of specific courses and career path. Not forgetting the bundles of money it is possible to save getting your electives (core classes) out of the way for a fraction of an university or private college!

Of course, you can change up your college journey any time you want, but it often can cost you more time, money and effort.

But here’s the Lesson Three that I love so much: Because of her initial setback not getting into her dream target schools for mechanical engineering, Anne gave herself some breathing room (two years) to test out other possible interests.

Believe it or not, in your early 20s, a lot of emotional growth usually takes place even within the short span of a year or two. (One reason Gap Years are so popular.)

The better you know yourself, the wiser decisions you will make about your future. So more time usually helps.

Anne also had the maturity to not focus on her flub up (applying to only four super competitive schools with no back-ups) and instead continued to look forward, worked to figure out where she went wrong and adjusted her course.

And look what happened! She is currently back on track to a career that feels perfect for her true passions and interests.

If you are waiting for your acceptance letters, and for some reason things don’t go as planned and a dose of college rejection, remember Anne:

  1. Don’t freak out. It’s not worth the energy.
  2. Try to figure out what went wrong and learn from any mistakes. Sometimes, it’s just the luck of the draw, too.
  3. Get a new plan. It might not be what you had in mind, but swallow your pride, ignore the bluster talk from annoying friends and parents, and adjust your course.
  4. Remember, it never hurts to buy yourself more time to really figure out what you truly love, what you are good at, and what makes the most sense. You are young. Time is on your side. And if you are like Anne, you may be surprised that a bump in the road can actually help set you on an even better adventure!

I have to add that Anne also made an extra effort to ace her transfer essay. (Remember, one of the reasons she suspected she didn’t get into those top schools was that she didn’t put a lot of energy into her essays.) This time, she took the time to learn and teach herself what made a great transfer essay. And yes, she sought some outside help (me).

As you can probably guess, I told her to basically tell this inspiring story of her college quest to date, including the disappointments, and how she recovered, and the surprise of finding a new love and goal. If you are transferring, you will probably be asked to share the ‘reason you are transferring.’

Tell your story, too! And include, like Anne, what you learned from the process.

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